Becoming a parent must surely be one of the joys of life. There is little that can equal the pleasure of the dance between a newborn baby and parent. Then, as the baby grows and develops an increasing and amazing repertoire of capabilities, the parent can tune into the magic that is childhood. Of course it is not all smooth sailing, and there are everyday stresses and hassles as well.
Parents are human, and have needs too. Some parents are so concerned for and involved with their children that they neglect their own needs — for rest, relaxation and stimulation. Becoming a parent for the first time brings about an enormous and often stressful change in lifestyle for most people, and many fears and anxieties are experienced during the pregnancy and the first few months after birth. Parenting is hard work most of the time, but the rewards are many. Do not try to be a martyr. The best gift you can give to your children is to be a relaxed, fulfilled parent. Here are some thoughts on what may help you get through the day and still enjoy your child. These are in no particular order of importance. Trust your instincts You can listen to advice from family, friends and professionals, and read what all the experts write, but in the end you should rely on your own intuition as fo what to do in relation to your child.
All children are different Try not to compare one with the other, and respect individual differences.
Keep a sense of humour This may be the most important piece of advice to heed as we go through life, especially as a parent. The ability to laugh at a situation, and at oneself, is the very best form of therapy we can receive.
Relate to your children in a warm, gentle, sensitive way Ultimately this is always more successful than verbal threats or physical punishment.
Above all, love and enjoy your children The years fly past all too rapidly.
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